Posts Tagged ‘goals’

Monday Morning Quarterback

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As I find myself at the six month mark with these goals I want to take a moment to evaluate each of the goals that I set for myself.  If this kind of stuff bores you please feel free to pass on by.  If, per chance, you have been inspired over the last six months, to establish some personal goals for yourself, please feel free to drop me an email or comment here on this post and let me know how you are doing with your own goals.  More than anything, these weekly posts have been for myself.  I guess knowing that someone may be reading these weekly posts has served as the form of accountability that I need to keep going…

Hike 5 more NH 4000 footers:  I’m taking a personal day this Friday with Jeff Cerow (of the 1/2 marathon fame) and we’re going to make an aggressive attempt at four 4000 footers in the White Mountains.  We’ll begin up the Garfield Trail to Mt. Garfield (4500′) and then along to Galehead Mt.(4024′)  over to S. Twin Mt. (4902′) along the North Twin Spur to N. Twin Mt. (4761′) and then down the North Twin Trail to Rt. 3 for a 3 mile hike back to the trailhead where we began.  Over all we’ll cover 16 miles in the course of this hike.  I say it’s aggressive because it is.  The elevation changes on this hike make t much more than a 16 mile hike.  I’m really looking forward to this hike as the views from some of the peaks should afford great photo opportunities.  (I’ll post some of them next week!)

Travel with the family to Philadelphia in April:  Obviously, this has been put off as we changed plans back in March to rent a cottage at the beach later in the year.  We’re really looking forward to this time together at the beach hunting for crabs and starfish and munching on lobsters and steamers.

Run a 1/2 marathon by July:  nailed it baby!  On May 9th Jeff and I completed the Big Lake 1/2 Marathon in two hours and thirty minutes.

Weight Goal-195, current – 200:  Over the past 6 months I have gone down to my desired weight of 195 and I am bouncing back and forth right now between 195 & 200.  This is a manageable weight for me and I have no concern about keeping in this range.  I’m far more active than I have been in years with running, indoor soccer and hiking.

Monthly date night with Kim: I’m planning a special night out with Kim for this month.  So far we have had a date night every month this year.  I know that some would say we need to make this happen more often and I would, to a degree, agree with them.  However, we are finding more time to be together and are greatly enjoying each other.  The kids are a true blessing to spend time with and I am doing far better than I ever have with making time for them.  I know I can still improve greatly (and I am trying hard to) but I would say that being intentional as I have been for the past six months has really made a difference in our family time.

Increase financial support to Global Benefit/Smyths:  Yes.  This has happened and we are not lacking anything in exchange.  I am immensely blessed by our giving to help an incredible family who has sacrificed all that they have to go and live in Rwanda.  The Smyth family inspires me each day to do all I can to help those around me as they do all they can to help the people of Rwanda.

Sponsor 1 Rwandan child:  Yes.  I consider it pure joy to know that there is a little girl in Rwanda who receives food, healthcare, and an education because of our sacrificial giving.

Stop checking email on days off and holidays/vacations:  This is always a work in progress but I have progressed light years from where I was six months ago.  I truly find myself less stressed about all that can occupy my mind due to ministry.  I have established clear boundaries for myself and feel good about where I am with those boundaries.

Have more fun with the girls -play games, walks, talks:  Yes, yes, yes!  While I will always find myself needing to spend more time with them, as I said above, I am greatly enjoying my time with them and being very intentional to ensure that they do not feel sidelined by the ministry that I am called to.

Take more pictures:  Man, I suck at this one.  While I purposely bring my camera with me wherever I go I still forget to take shots of life as it happens.  I need to continue to work on this one as I love, truly love, to capture moments with my camera.

Continue Daddy Dates with Megan every Friday morning: Every Friday, no exceptions.  As I strive to stay connected with my daughters I will continue this as long as I have children.  I look forward to Friday mornings with Megan every week.  Makenna will begin preschool in the Fall and that is when we will begin the same tradition (except on a different day)

Gym 3x per week:  For the most part I have been very good at maintaining a schedule for the gym.  There have been a few weeks when I did not make it three times per week but when I factor in my indoor soccer games I am doing very well.  I love the way I feel, the shape that I am in, and how I look!

Read 2 books per week:  For the most part I have been doing very well at keeping to this goal.  This past week I hit Anne Jackson’s book Mad Church Disease again.  I know I read it only a couple months back but I felt as if I needed to reread this one to really grasp all that she wrote about establishing patterns in our lives to avoid burnout.  Along with this book I also read Wayne Cordeiro’s book, Leading on Empty.  As I now can say I know Wayne personally, I will say that this book is a very refreshing read.  Again, establishing patterns that will keep me from burning out is my desire as I truly want to serve in my calling as a pastor for the rest of my life.

Increase time spent mentoring next-gen leaders:  I have continued along in my Youth Ministry Mentor conversations every Thursday for an hour with a young man from Oregon and have greatly enjoyed our talks together.  Along with these times I am finding myself far more intentional about training up and explaining why we do things the way we do them with the student leaders we have at Impact.  I know I can always be doing more but maintaining balance in my life overall keeps me from over-emphasizing this goal.

Write a book on leadership and youth ministry:  I’m still taking notes and filing away many thoughts in one of my journals.  I’m still not sure if this will be the year or not but I do know that I am collecting quite a treasure chest of notes for when I do bite the bullet and w

Monday Morning Quarterback

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Here’s how the goals are going:

  • Time with family: Just a regular deal this past week.  We celebrated Megan’s 10th birthday on Sunday afternoon and had fun visiting with our extended family.  Makenna wasn’t feeling all that great over the weekend – all she wanted to do was sleep – so we kept it low & slow for her.  
  • Exercising: I got back into a running routine this week just in time to stop due to my three day Darfur Fast For Life.  I didn’t want to exert any more energy than needed while doing a water only fast.  This next week I will be away at a conference in California and am looking forward to hitting the road and getting some miles in while helping Jake train for a 5K we’ll be doing together in the Fall.  
  • Weight: last week – 196  this week – 190. With the three day fast that I did I definitely lost a few pounds.  I’ feeling well and love the energy that I have due to a much more active lifestyle.  And no, Stuart, if you are reading this, no bran muffin needed!
  • Read Two Books Per Week:  I finished up the book The Hole In Our Gospel this week by Richard Stearns who is the president of World Vision.  It’s inspiring to see the change that can be brought into many lives by one person who is faithful to do what only they can.  This was a challenging book that will keep me going as I creatively look for ways to make a difference in this world.

That’s all for this weekly update.

Put Your Dreams To The Test

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I finished reading the newest writing from John Maxwell,“Put Your Dream To The Test-10 Questions That Will Help You See It and Seize It” a few weeks ago but have held off on posting a review because I wanted to put more of what was mentioned in the book into practice.  In this book Maxwell gives the reader tools to use to evaluate your dreams.  The book is broken down into chapters that address different “measuring sticks” to discern which dreams are the ones that you hold onto and fight for all that it’s worth and those that you let go of to move on to what you should be going after.

I’ve read many books by John Maxwell before and this one I have found to be my favorite so far.  It is highly practical and applicable in many areas of life.  Rather than just being a ministry book or leadership book this tackles the topic of dreams and goals that we have for our lives.  We all should have dreams and goals so it is helps the average person reading the book.

Many of us have lofty dreams of changing the world or creating the next big thing.  This book gives great insight into whether those dreams are ones to pursue or dreams that we have created that will become a distraction to the things that we should be moving towards accomplishing.  With questions that help you dig below the surface of your dreams this book is a great resource for anyone wondering if they should grab hold of or let go of a dream.  I recommend this book to all.  But don’t just read it to say you have read it.  Make use of the questions and use the practical exercises to help you achieve your dreams.

Monday Morning Quarterback

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Here’s how the goals are going:

  • Time with family: I found some extra time to be with the kids this week as well as get some things done that needed to happen.  Makenna has taken to being my helper on Mondays as I am getting the hen house ready for our 6 chickens to move into.  It’s been a lot of fun seeing construction projects through the eyes of a five year old.  On Saturday both of the kids came with me to assist in the 30 Hour Famine with our Concord Area Youth Network and they were both a joy to be with and a real blessing for the youth that were there.  They pitched right in and helped out with the community service projects that we were working on.  I love being able to instill within my kids the value of serving and this turned into a great way to continue this effort.
  • Exercising: As I had just run a half marathon the Saturday prior I took it quite easy this week.  I did get out Thursday night and had a great time playing an hour of indoor soccer in the league that I play in.  Unfortunately I pulled a hamstring with my first warm up kick.  I have never experienced a pulled hamstring before and honestly – never want to again.  I’ve been icing and heating my leg the past few days and I’m ready to get out tomorrow to do some running.  I will be hitting the road and getting back into the swing of running again this week.    
  • Weight: last week – 193  this week – 196. The irony of a three pound gain is that I took part in the 30 Hour Famine this past weekend and went without food for 30 hours.  I would have thought that I would have stayed the same or last a couple more pounds.  Either way, I’m good with where I am at and will look to stay in a maintenance mode to stick around 195 for good.
  • Read Two Books Per Week:  I received the book The Hole In Our Gospel this week by Richard Stearns who is the president of World Vision.  With the 30 Hour Famine going on this past weekend which supports the financial needs of World Vision as well as my participation in the Darfur Fast For Life this week I felt it was very timely to read this.  I still haven’t finished the book but I am enjoying it greatly and look forward to completing it.  

That’s all for this weekly update.

Monday Morning Quarterback

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Here’s how the goals are going:

  • Time with family: This was a great week with the kids.  We spent some good moments together.  It was quality time more than it was quantity time because it was a busy week for me but we had some really good conversations and lots of laughs.
  • Exercising: This week was the culmination of 4 months of training.  Saturday I ran my first half marathon and felt great doing it.  Even though I had been having troubles with shin splints I never experienced any pain throughout the complete race.  My time for the 13.1 miles was 2 hours and 33 minutes.  We averaged 10 minute miles with a few walks to keep stretched out.  Honestly, I had such a sense of joy as I crossed the finish line.  It was overwhelming!  
  • Weight: last week – 195  this week – 193. I’ve got to attribute the additional 2 pounds of weight loss to the 13 miles I ran on Saturday.  I’ll be looking to maintain the 195 weight because that is what I am comfortable with and I feel good at this weight.
  • Read Two Books Per Week:  This week I read The Monkey and The Fish by Dave Gibbons.  This book discusses the idea of being influential in the third culture and what it looks like to do this.  I also read Mad Church Disease by Anne Jackson.  This book was a great read that I am able to really take to heart.  Anne addressed burn out and the ways to remain balanced in ministry and life.  I’d recommend this book to anyone serving in ministry.
  • Monthly Date Night With Kim:  Even though we had our date night last week we also had a special dinner as a family in honor of Kim and the fact that she is the world’s greatest mother.  We went down to Bugaboo Creek in Bedford and ate a great meal while the moose on the wall talked throughout our meal and entertained the kids.

That’s all for this weekly update.

The Culmination Of Four Months

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I’ve been training for four months now all for tomorrow morning.  The Big Lake 1/2 Marathon is tomorrow and I will be running with my friend Jeff Cerow.  Please pray for me as I run beginning at 8am.  I know that I will have some issues with shin splints – I’m not claiming that, but I am a realist.  The thing that is worrying me a bit is the elevation changes on the course.  In the Boston Marathon they have a place called heart break hill that is about 3/4 of the way through the marathon.  Here on this course that hill is placed at mile 6.

I have no time goal for this run.  This is my first ever half marathon and my only goal is to complete the run by crossing the finish line.  A good friend gave me some great advice last week and it will be the mentality that I run with.  She said, “you are only running one mile, 13 times.”  I will keep that in mind as I run.  One mile done over and over again…

As I set some personal goals for myself each year I wanted to include some physical challenges.  This will be the first of the physical challenges that I accomplish for 2009.  I’m not sure where this run will take me for the future but I feel really good about being in the shape that I am in compared to four months ago and that for me is a true blessing.  The bonus goal that was accomplished through my training is that my weight went from 225 to 195 which was also one of my goals.  I love that!

What is a physical challenge that you need to set for yourself?

Monday Morning Quarterback

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Here’s how the goals are going:

  • Time with family: What a contrast to the week before!  I was very intentional in getting out of the office with enough daylight left to play with the girls for a while each evening.  Makenna started a new tradition at bedtime and I now need to tell her a “made up story” each night.  I love it.  She hangs on every word that I speak as I get my creativity going.  She laughs and giggles as I tell stories about a little girl who can fly.  It gets even more fun when she gets to make up stories for me.  They usually involve a unicorn and a hungry troll…
  • Exercising: I got out to run three days this week and felt great each time.  With the Big Lake 1/2 Marathon just 5 short days away I am still not feeling 100% ready but a friend gave me some great advice yesterday.  It’s not a 13 mile run.  It a 1 mile run that I do 13 times.  All I need to focus on is one mile at a time.  I’m sure at some point I will focus purely on one step at a time!
  • Weight: last week – 195  this week – 195. Now that I am at my target weight I am all about maintaining.  Let me recount for a moment.  It’s May 4th and I weigh 195.  January 1st I weighed 225.  I have lost 30 pounds!  I feel fantastic.  Kim is thrilled because my snoring has gone away.  I am thrilled because my asthma has all but gone away.  Of course I still need to purchase some pants that fit me better but for now I just make sure I have my belt tightened.
  • Read Two Books Per Week:  Nothing.  No reading this week.  I caught up on a few magazines that had been piling up but other than that I really wanted to fill my time with my kids.
  • Monthly Date Night With Kim:  The girls had a birthday party to attend Saturday night so Kim and I made the most of it by grabbing a quiet dinner out.  We were able to sit and talk and plan out what we would plant in the vegetable garden this year.  After dinner we walked through a local nursery and found some Jalapeno Pepper plants.  I can’t wait for harvest season.  Salsa will be fresh and hot!
  • Vacation at the beach: We’re still trying to nail down a place.  The list is long and until we get to drive out to the beach to check out the houses for rent we won’t know exactly where we will be but the dates have been set for July 6 – 12 so the anticipation of a great week at the beach looking for shells and building sand castles is growing.

That’s all for this weekly update.

Monday Morning Quarterback

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O.K., so this is the Tuesday edition of a regular posting… cut me some slack!

 

Here’s how the goals are going:

  • Time with family: None.  Absolutely zip.  Nada.  Zilch.  I’ve spent the past week in Jamaica with a great group of 12 teens and 2 other adult leaders.  It was a phenomenal week but being away from Kim and the kids wore on me.  I was very glad to be able to hold them, hug them and kiss them late Saturday evening when we returned.  This week I am going to be making up for some missed time with them by finding special moments each day to share with them.
  • Exercising: With the amount of walking, running, playing, working and definitely sweating I would say that I had a great week of unconventional exercise.  I feel good and actually did a short amount of running one day when I found a field to run in.  Only logged about a mile but running that distance with sandals on and dodging goat and cow  crap would be considered a longer distance than it was!
  • Weight: last week – 196  this week – 195. Surprisingly with all of the rice and beans that I ate last week I still knocked off another pound.
  • Read Two Books Per Week:  Only one book this week but it was a gem!  Augustine As Mentor is a fantastic book for anyone who desires to mentor and release others into ministry.  As I read this book on the plane I found myself underlining major sections of each page.  This is a must read for anyone who trains and equips other leaders.
  • Vacation at the beach: Can’t wait.  We’ll be taking a drive to Hampton this week some time to check out the place before we book it.  Looks like it will be a sweet week!

That’s all for this weekly update.

Monday Morning Quarterback

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Here’s how the goals are going:

  • Time with family: With us being down to a one car family currently we ended up spending all kinds of time together.  Overall it was a great week.  The girls are fun to play with and story time at night is priceless with them.  
  • Exercising: I was able to hit the road for some outdoor runs 3 times this week.  I’ve been feeling a bit discouraged because of some pain in my lower legs.  Shin Splints is what I have and I am none too happy about it.  I’ve been icing my legs and stretching frequently to try and ease the soreness.  Overall for the week I got in 12 miles which is completely out of line with where I want to be for the 1/2 marathon training.  May 9th is coming quickly and I’m getting less comfortable with being ready for it.
  • Weight: last week – 210  this week – 198. I feel really good about this overall.  Especially when you factor in our Saturday night dinner at Gaucho’s in Manchester.  That place was a non-stop meat fest!  If you are ever in NH and need to load up on meat you HAVE to eat at Gaucho’s.  (Just remember to wear your stretchy pants!)
  • Read Two Books Per Week:  This was a great week for reading.  I received a couple books for free from various publishing houses that I will be reviewing in the next couple of days.  The books were Not Everyone Gets a Trophy by Bruce Tulgan and Put Your Dream To The Test by John Maxwell.  Each book was worth the read.  I’ll save commentary for the reviews that will be posted later this week.
  • Monthly Date Night With Kim: As I stated above, we went to Gaucho’s for dinner on Saturday night.  We were joined by 3 other couples and we had an absolute blast!  I’ve never sat in a restaurant for almost 3 hours eating food and laughing and not felt guilty for taking the table for that amount of time.  The time flew by and we all greatly enjoyed the night.  One of the best “dates” that Kim and I have gone on in a while.
  • Vacation at the beach:  As we had a change of plans for April vacation with me heading to Jamaica with or youth mission team now we have begun looking at some affordable houses to rent at the beach.  It’s looking like our vacation the week after leading the NNE4 Youth Camp will be spent relaxing on the beach.  I’ll be looking forward to reading books in the sand and searching for shells and crabs in the rocky areas along the shore.  It’s going to be a great time!

That’s all for this weekly update.  More next week!

Monday Morning Quarterback

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Here’s how the goals are going:

  • Time with family: I’ve been entering another busy season as our district youth camp begins to take shape along with the additional meetings we’ve been having in regards to our building expansion.  That being said, my family time has been suffering.  I need to snap this back into balance now.  My time with my family is something that I have to fight hard for.  This will become a priority this week.
  • Exercising: I made it to the gym 2 times last week but I also got an outside run in. Total running distance this week was 17 miles.  My mileage was down from last week but it was a more accurate count of the miles as it has been less inside and more outside.  I also figured out why my lower legs have been experiencing pain.  It hasn’t been due to poor stretching, actually my calf muscles are stronger than the muscles in the front outside portion of my lower legs.  This has been causing my heel to pull up which has been flexing the muscle on the front of my legs.  I’m working on some exercises that will strengthen the front of my lower legs in order to balance the strain that they are receiving.  Until they even out I’ll be icing my lower legs and pushing through some pain.  47 days until the Big Lake 1/2 Marathon
  • Weight: last week – 198  this week – 199. It’s now been 23 since the beginning of the 40 Days of Water .  While I don’t crave coffee anymore I do look forward to the end of this sacrifice.  Coffee is what filled me up without adding any pounds on me.  Instead I have been snacking on fruits & veggies.  My appetite is something I am always trying to keep in check and the coffee used to do that for me.  I can’t wait for April 9th!
  • Read Two Books Per Week:  We’re going through a teaching series at GCC on the Holy Spirit so I reread Jack Hayford’s book, The Beauty Of Spiritual Language.  This is a great book that removes some myths about speaking in tongues as well as what it really means to experience the fullness of the Holy Spirit.
  • Monthly Date Night With Kim: This week is supposed to be our date night.  We’ll see how it goes.  I’m looking forward to it and I think Kim will have fun as well!
  • April Vacation in Philadelphia:  Our vacation plans have definitely been changed.  We’ll be reallocating our April vacation budget to July and spending a week at the beach instead.  In place of April vacation I will be heading to Jamaica with our youth mission team.  We’ve had a couple people that have had to drop off the team due to health issues and family stuff.  Knowing the importance of good leadership on this trip I feel it is necessary to go.

That’s all for this weekly update.  More next week!